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The biggest obstacle that stops you from reaching your goal is not a lack of money, or support or education. It is a lack of CONFIDENCE. When you are blessed with a dream and yet filled with self-doubt that dream may never see the light of day. It is a crying shame. And, it is something that you can conquer! You can develop the confidence you need to take your hearts desire from a wish to a goal to a reality.
Ideas are sacred. Of course, not every idea is a gem but ideas become thoughts that we can choose to develop into visions for our future. If the Universe has gifted us with an impression, an image or intuitive whisper to our soul we must listen. It may be a fully formed concept, but more often than not it is a sense of something, a series of images or sensations that we have an urge to investigate further. We may have a sense that something is leading us to talk to a particular person, or take a look more deeply into a certain course of study and as we do, another layer of information and impressions unfold.
Our highest self knows what is best for us and we will feel an excitement, a lightness, a quickening. We will feel a "rightness" when we are on the right track. Similarly, we will feel a heaviness, a darkness, an anxiety when we are on the wrong path. We know in our heart of hearts, in our gut, when our thoughts and ideas are in alignment with our soul self. If we choose NOT to pursue it, we will not be settled. We will not feel at ease.
Even if we are scared, the Universe will try and get us to fulfill our purpose one way or another. It has been my experience it is wiser to listen, and follow the signs sooner rather than later. I think of poor Jonah, and the whale. His stubborness and, refusal to listen to instructions to follow his destiny led to being swallowed up and spit out where he was supposed to be. One way or the other, you need to face the fact that you are designed to fulfill YOUR purpose. Isn't it better to develop the CONFIDENCE to do it than to run scared? Isn't it time to stop wasting your precious time.
So how do you do it? How do you develop the CONFIDENCE to face your destiny and fulfill your purpose? Here are a few ways to help:
"Cherish your visions; cherish your ideals; cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts for out of them will grow all delightful conditions, all heavenly environment; of these, if you but remain true to them your world will last be built." -- James Allen
What does this mean? Cherish your vision!! It is yours and given TO YOU for a reason. A lot of other people are going to think you are nuts, they will say you are crazy, that you can't, you shouldn't, you couldn't. Eventually, you will share your idea with the world but at first keep it close to your chest. Don't share your idea with people who won't support you.
You have your own doubts and fears. That is understandable and your energy and focus need to be on combating them. Your vision is going to become a reality, you are going to set right goals, and complete actions that get you closer to it every single day. Focus on that. Keep your energy high, and positive. You cannot afford to waste it on anyone else's negativity.
Find people who are also doing what you are doing and connect with them. Do some research into others that have been successful already. What did they do? How do they live their lives, who do they surround themselves with? Tell these like-minded people what you are doing. Ask them for advice, ask to join a Facebook group, or a Mastermind group where you can share ideas with each other. Put yourself out there and share, be willing to give and receive openly and honestly. Allow yourself to be focused, positive, goal oriented and excited about your vision in this safe, supportive space. Your vibration will be in alignment with their vibration and the energy that the combined frequencies produce will elevate you both. You will be able to accelerate your progress, think more creatively, grow and learn more quickly. Don't worry about competition, collaboration is an accelerant for success!
Find a mentor, a group or a life coach who will be your cheer leader and hold you accountable to the steps you want to be taking every day. It is not just easier with another, it is almost impossible on your own. Those self- doubts are firmly fixed and a life coach can help you replace them with new, more effective, healthier habits and beliefs that will support you in your efforts. Working with a life coach you will blast the past doubts out and re-wire in self-confidence, strength and clarity for your future journey.
Do Your Part
Reaching out for help is a good thing. I encourage you to do just that. And, I also recommend that you do your homework and do your part first. Often, when we struggle with confidence, we underestimate what we bring to the table and think we need other people to rescue us.
You may not have all the skills you need to make your vision into a reality, yet but you have ALOT of them. Consider honestly, what are my strengths? What are my weaknesses?
Some people will have no problem listing their weaknesses and blank with strengths - women especially, are notorious for downplaying our power. Stop. Breathe. Look in the mirror.
What are you good at? Can you listen to others? Are you good with numbers? Do you rock social media? Are you an awesome photographer, writer, people person? It doesn't have to be 100%. Maybe you are good at some parts of it, and you need help with others. I am good with making videos, not so great at editing for example.
Listing your weaknesses isn't an opportunity to beat yourself up. It's time for honest reflection. Are you struggling with something that you know you will need for your vision to succeed? Ok, so learn what you can about it. Let's take editing again, for example. I learned about the programs that I can use and I practiced the techniques.
Then ask for help when you know exactly what you need help with. You can be specific, and informed. You are not a helpless, powerless victim. You are an informed, powerful, confident woman who knows what she needs and why she needs it.
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