The Question: How do we conquer our fear and apathy on the way to our success?
I am a fan of Sadghuru, an Indian yogi, mystic and author who founded the Isha Foundation. Recently, I re-listened to one of his talks, and he was asked this question:
"how do we conquer our fear and apathy on the way to our success.?"
I thought it was a reasonable question. I have felt both fear and apathy personally at various times in my life. During this last year alone, I have had some significant changes: moving house, kids moving away, getting married, and running a small business during a pandemic that have brought up some strong emotions.
Before seeking my help, many of my clients have faced incredible challenges or have realised that life is not working for them. They have often been engulfed in fear and apathy for a while and are tired of feeling stuck.
Clearly, the person who asked the question had similar experiences, hence the question.
The Answer: Don't be afraid or apathetic about success.
Sadghuru's response surprised me, but it is spot on, eloquent and, best of all, so simple. I have to share it with you.
The first thing he did was remove the idea that this is a general problem by asking the person to rephrase it to "how do I conquer my fear and apathy on the way to my success." You see, not everyone struggles with this issue. Some people have it figured out already; it never even came up for them as "something to figure out", and if you are struggling with it, you don't have to.
Hmm. Just that concept alone is refreshing, isn't it?
We normalise our suffering and make it a part of the human experience, but really, sometimes, we manufacture our own. This is one of those times.
Naturally, he says, there will be fears if we focus on the outcome as success. We likely won't have the ability, resources or skill where we are now to match the endpoint we are imagining in the distant future.
We are focused on the uphill climb, and it is daunting. We "don't have the legs to get there".
Even worse, how many of us have lived our lives based on what we "should" do and are striving toward someone else's idea of what success "should" look like?
Apathy is inevitable when the dream is not from your own heart and soul.
Yes, circumstances may lift you up or not to attain certain things, but will you feel successful?
The key is not to focus on success at all, not to focus on the outcome. Instead, focus on finding out who you are and what you are meant to be.
Figure out how to enhance your capabilities as a human being to your fullest potential.
No matter what you are doing, if you are doing it as the best human being, you are successful.
Along the way to each goal in life, see how to make yourself more and more capable.
How can you enhance your capabilities & fulfill your highest potential?
1. Spend time getting to know yourself:
Meditation is where you find your inner wisdom. Spend time in stillness every day. I currently have a 20 day meditate with me video series on Instagram, and you are welcome to join. I also offer meditations on Insight Timer for free. You can also download a FREE guide to meditation and join my newsletter here.
2. Clear your energy clear:
Tune in and notice what is energising and what is draining you. Spend time in what energises you, weed out or minimise what drains you. Reiki is an excellent way to clear negative energy. I offer in-person sessions in Toronto, ON.
3. Appreciate what you have already:
Make gratitude a part of your routine. It is a miracle that you are here. You belong; you matter. Don't waste all the gifts already given to you by ignoring them.
4. Be willing to learn & grow:
There is no room to grow when you think you "know it". Adopt a childlike, curious mind and be open to other perspectives. Say, "I never looked at it that way" or "thanks for sharing" to different points of view.
5. Believe anything is possible:
There is no fear when you believe anything is possible. It doesn't matter if you don't understand or achieve your goal the first time. Try again.
Just like that little ol' ant who didn't believe he couldn't, we get better with consistency.
6. Talk it out:
Share your journey with someone who can help you see your gifts, be supportive and hold you accountable to keep moving in the direction of your highest self.
If you are ready to live authentically then the very first step is to find a coach that you trust and that is a good fit. Click this link for a FREE 30-minute consultation and let's explore the possibilities together.